Friday, April 16, 2010
Writing Topic #2 pg.825
People definitely have types, they do not have to be physical preferences, even though they commonly are, but i think for the most part people prefer certain qualities and attributes over others. For example, I prefer people who are outgoing, adventurous and friendly. While others may prefer people who are shy and quiet. Types are relative and there is no accurate way to define them or judge someone on their “type”. People’s types come from many places, the cane be based on inherent prefreces, religious beliefs or even social influences, for some, they are born with a preference fro certain people and for others, types can be learned through remembered happy experiences. For the most part types do not change in my opinion, this I feel is one aspect of types that is inherent, it is there from the beginning, before we learn what is socially desirable. I have always been drawn to a certain type of person and that has not really changed in all these years. I am the type to be somewhat shy when I first meet someone and as I get to know them and feel comfortable my “true colors” come out. I suppose that is why I like extroverts so much, because I sometimes wish that I was more comfortable being open with people I do not know that well. It seems that in many instances people gravitate to others that exhibit the qualities that they themselves wish they had and so this is also a good example of that fact that types are not definable, they mean something to different to every person. I do believe however that in extreme cases types can indeed change. I think when you get involved with someone who is not exactly right or good for you over and over again that types need to be changed. It is not easy to change them but it has to be done so that a person can lead a happier and more peaceful life. This example is similar to those in which people form preferences based on positive experiences. Something as basic as a memory of a nice, friendly teacher from childhood can cause people to form preferences for similar types with even knowing it. As human beings we constantly try to improve ourselves and by making connections with those that have the very qualities we value or respect can improve out own selves by mere association. Therefore, I think is it quite clear that types do exist and only extreme circumstances can change those types. Many like me, are in a sense born with a preference for certain types of people while others learn this preference. Regardless, though of that I would say that types are one of the most difficult things to distinguish or describe. The can be inherent or learned but they are unique in ever case, like a finger print, no two people look for exactly the same things in a person, whether what they are looking for pertains to a love interest or just a friend, it will always vary.
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I like what you said about being “born with it.” I think that it is not so much that we are born with a type, I mean its not like being born with a disability or something. However the concept I like, it’s like our type comes so naturally that it is like we were born knowing that is the “type” we like. I also like that you admitted we do look for the qualities that we wish we had in other people. I like the saying “opposites attract.” I think that the best and strongest relationships are those that have polar opposites involved. If I am the type of person who loves attention it wouldn’t be good for me to be with someone who also craves attention, we would be fighting for the spotlight. My ideal match would be someone who enjoys fading into the background and allowing his partner to be the center of the show. it’s the ying -yang thing, it works. I am not the above mentioned person by the way, that was just a scenario lol. I think though that we defiantly have types whether it be physical or different personalities we all have a preference and there is nothing wrong with that. To each his own.
ReplyDeleteI really really enjoyed this blog, I think because I can relate to it alot. By that I mean I really feel exactly the same way, even down to my personality and the people I tend to gravitate toward. I tend to be shy myself and more of an introvert, and yet from grade school on I have always been friends with the loudest people I knew, the most outgoing and excitable. Even now, my two best friends who are closer than brothers to me, they are the most out going people I know.
ReplyDeleteI also agree that types are something we are all born with. At the same time though, I feel that it is something that grows, that is refined. At first, for me at least, as a kid I was friends with everybody, we all hung out and whatnot, but as I grew older, we all started to lean towards those that we prefered, as we learned, not only what we like, but also what we are like. As we discover ourselves we discover what we like in others, and so forth. I really enjoyed your blog, and I look forward to the next.
I really liked your blog and I also enjoyed reading it. I like how you brought out that types do not always have to be something physical or something that is found on the outside of a person. It really does make sense when you think about it, how we tend to hang out with certain types of people with qualities and character attributes that we like. It could be a preference or it may just happen to be that those types that we prefer are those that we are just more comfortable around or get along better with. I also found it interesting when you talked about how we come to have these types or preferences of the people that we associate with. I would have to agree with you, when you said that types are both difficult to distinguish and to describe. I think it would also be hard to explain where all these types came from in the first place. I thought it was interesting where you said that types can be learned through remembered happy experiences, and I think that It is very true when how our preferences can be based from early childhood experiences. It’s amazing how that works.
ReplyDeleteI do agree that most of the times peoples, "types," are commonly physical. Now a days it seems that most people look towards physical then mental. I don't know if you get what I mean. I will try to elaborate...as an example, my little sister just started dating, and when I asked her why she was dating the boy she first dated, she responded with, "well, he's cute and funny, and i don't know, just cool." I know it sounds funny but now a days that's what most people look for in a person, and that's it! It's ridiculous to think, but I haven't heard a girl tell me lately that she was looking for a good, honest, hard working guy who wants something with his life. It's more of, "let me go to this party and get wasted and if there is a cute guy around, then I'll hook up with him because no one will be in the right state of mind to even realize that I am acting slutish...then I'll wake up next to him, and well, since he is cute, then I'll date him...it doesn't matter if he has any bad qualities that I don't find productive, heck, he's cute." I mean, obviously this doesn't go through people's heads, but this is what ends up happening because of no one thinks of these things before the bad occurs. I also agree with you and love the words you use when you said, "happy," experiences. This sets the stage for the reader a little better. I understood more as to why a more enjoyable experience might have been the subject of a persons, "type," when I read happy experience. Great blog. : )
ReplyDeleteI really like the point you made about how we tend to draw to people that have the personality traits that we wish we had. Thinking back on that, I see myself doing the same thing. I find myself in the middle; I’m not completely shy and quiet, but I’m not loud and outgoing and I find myself wanting to hang around people who are more outgoing and adventurous. This also sometimes causes clashes in character between two people, but they’re typically resolved and I know my closest friends are outgoing, which is something I’ve always wanted to be. And I agree with you that sometimes there are times where one’s type preference needs to change in both a relationship aspect and even for their own good in general. Someone may draw to a crowd that does drugs because they want to be around people who like to experiment and try new things, but that’s not the route they need to go. And I didn’t think t describe someone’s type as their fingerprint because someone’s type is their identity that they portray to their surroundings, it makes them who they really are and it’s something that is very difficult to change, and in many cases, it shouldn’t be changed unless it benefits them, not for the acceptance of others.
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